Complete OurTime Profile Tips: How to Create an Attractive Profile Over 50
Understanding the OurTime Audience
OurTime is specifically designed for singles over 50, making it a unique dating platform with distinct user expectations. Members typically seek meaningful relationships, genuine connections, and partners who share life experience and maturity.
Unlike apps targeting younger demographics, OurTime users value honesty, stability, and authentic self-presentation. Your profile should reflect these values while showcasing your unique personality and what makes you an interesting partner.
Choosing the Perfect Username
Your username is the first impression many users will have of you. For OurTime, consider these guidelines:
- Keep it positive: Avoid negative words or phrases
- Reflect interests: Include hobbies like GardenLover or JazzEnthusiast
- Stay age-appropriate: Avoid trying to sound younger than you are
- Be memorable: Choose something distinctive but not too quirky
- Avoid numbers: Birth years can date your profile unnecessarily
Examples of effective OurTime usernames: WanderingSpirit, BookwormDave, GardeningSue, ActiveRetired, CoffeeAndConversation
Writing Your Headline
Your profile headline appears prominently in search results and should immediately convey your personality. OurTime allows up to 40 characters for headlines.
Headline Formula That Works
Use this structure: [Adjective] + [Noun] + [Seeking/Looking For] + [Quality]
Examples:
- "Active Retiree Seeking Travel Companion"
- "Genuine Soul Looking for Authentic Connection"
- "Adventure-Loving Grandpa Seeks Partner in Crime"
- "Book Lover Seeking Fellow Bibliophile"
- "Optimistic Spirit Looking for Life's Next Chapter"
Crafting Your About Me Section
This is where you truly shine. OurTime's About Me section should be 150-300 words that give a genuine picture of who you are.
Structure for Success
Opening (2-3 sentences): Start with what defines you now, not your past. Focus on current passions and lifestyle.
Middle (4-5 sentences): Share specific interests, hobbies, and what fills your days. Be specific rather than generic.
Closing (2-3 sentences): Describe what you're seeking in a partner and relationship.
Example About Me
"I'm someone who believes the best years are still ahead. After retiring from teaching, I've discovered a passion for watercolor painting and exploring local hiking trails. My weekends often include farmers markets, live music, and quality time with my two grandchildren.
I value deep conversations over coffee, spontaneous road trips, and the simple pleasure of a well-cooked meal with good company. I'm equally comfortable dressing up for the symphony or keeping it casual at a local brewery.
I'm looking for someone who appreciates both adventure and quiet moments, someone who's emotionally available and ready for a genuine partnership."
What I'm Looking For Section
Be specific but not restrictive. OurTime users appreciate honesty about expectations without rigid requirements.
Effective Approaches
- Focus on qualities over characteristics: "Someone who values honesty" rather than specific physical traits
- Mention shared activities: "A partner who enjoys weekend getaways and trying new restaurants"
- Be realistic: Acknowledge that nobody's perfect, including yourself
- Show emotional intelligence: Express desire for mature communication and mutual respect
What to Avoid
- Long lists of requirements
- Negative statements about past relationships
- Age restrictions that seem arbitrary
- Overly specific physical demands
- Financial expectations or requirements
Optimizing Your Profile Sections
Lifestyle Section
OurTime includes specific questions about lifestyle. Answer honestly but strategically:
- Exercise habits: Be honest but positive ("Moderately active" vs "Couch potato")
- Smoking/Drinking: Honesty is crucial here; it's often a dealbreaker
- Relationship goals: Be clear about what you're seeking (friendship, dating, marriage)
- Living situation: Transparency builds trust
- Children/Grandchildren: Share your family situation proudly
Interests and Hobbies
Select interests that represent you accurately. Choose 5-10 that you genuinely engage with regularly. Popular OurTime interests include:
- Gardening and outdoor activities
- Travel and exploration
- Arts and culture
- Cooking and dining
- Reading and intellectual pursuits
- Golf, walking, or other moderate activities
- Volunteering and community involvement
- Music and concerts
Profile Photo Strategy
While we've covered photos in detail in another guide, here's a quick reminder of essentials:
- Main photo: Clear, recent headshot with genuine smile
- Photo 2: Full-body shot showing your style
- Photo 3: Activity photo showing interests
- Photos 4-6: Variety of social, travel, and lifestyle shots
Aim for at least 5-6 high-quality photos. Profiles with complete photo galleries receive significantly more views and messages.
Common Profile Mistakes to Avoid
1. Being Too Generic
Avoid clichés like "I love long walks on the beach" or "I'm equally comfortable in jeans or evening wear." Be specific about your actual interests and experiences.
2. Focusing on the Past
While your career and life achievements matter, focus on who you are now and what you want moving forward, not extensive discussion of your past.
3. Negativity
Never mention what you don't want in a partner before describing what you do want. Avoid complaints about online dating, past relationships, or life circumstances.
4. Grammar and Spelling Errors
Typos and poor grammar suggest carelessness. Have a friend proofread your profile or use spell-check tools.
5. Being Too Brief
One-sentence profiles suggest lack of effort. Take time to create a complete, thoughtful profile.
Keywords That Attract Quality Matches
Incorporate these words and themes to appeal to serious OurTime users:
- Authenticity: Genuine, honest, real, authentic
- Activity: Active, energetic, outdoors, adventures
- Connection: Meaningful, deep, conversations, companionship
- Life stage: Retired, empty nester, new chapter, second act
- Positive outlook: Optimistic, positive, grateful, blessed
- Stability: Established, settled, comfortable, secure
How to Stand Out on OurTime
Show Your Personality
Use a conversational tone that sounds like you. If you're naturally funny, let that show. If you're more serious and thoughtful, that's fine too. Authenticity attracts compatible matches.
Be Specific About Experiences
Instead of "I love to travel," write "I've been exploring national parks in my RV and recently fell in love with Glacier National Park." Specific details make you memorable and provide conversation starters.
Include Recent Accomplishments
Whether it's learning a new skill, completing a challenging hike, or mastering a recipe, recent achievements show you're actively engaged with life.
Profile Sections Priority
Complete your profile in this order for maximum impact:
- Photos (Critical): Upload all 5-6 photos first
- Headline (High Priority): Craft your attention-grabbing headline
- About Me (Essential): Write your comprehensive About Me section
- What I'm Looking For (Important): Describe your ideal match
- Interests (Helpful): Select relevant interests and hobbies
- Lifestyle (Valuable): Answer all lifestyle questions
- Additional sections (Nice to have): Complete remaining optional fields
Using AI to Enhance Your Profile
Consider using AI tools to improve your profile:
- Photo enhancement: Tools like AURA can improve photo quality while keeping you looking natural
- Writing assistance: AI can help refine grammar and suggest more engaging phrasing
- Tone analysis: Some tools can analyze whether your profile sounds positive and engaging
However, ensure your profile still sounds authentically like you. AI should enhance, not replace, your unique voice.
Profile Maintenance and Updates
Regular Updates
Keep your profile fresh by updating it every 2-3 months:
- Add new photos from recent experiences
- Update your About Me with current activities
- Refresh your headline seasonally
- Add new interests as you discover them
Seasonal Considerations
Mention seasonal activities to show you're an active user. In summer, reference outdoor activities. In winter, mention holiday traditions or winter hobbies.
Privacy and Safety Tips
While being authentic, protect your privacy:
- Don't include: Last name, specific address, workplace details, phone number, or email
- Be vague about location: City or general area is sufficient
- Avoid identifying landmarks: In photos, don't show house numbers or recognizable locations
- Wait to share details: Save specific information for when you've established trust
Testing and Optimization
A/B Testing Your Profile
Try different approaches to see what generates more interest:
- Week 1-2: Use one headline and note your views/messages
- Week 3-4: Try a different headline approach and compare results
- Repeat with: Main photo, About Me opening, What I'm Looking For section
Tracking Success Metrics
Pay attention to:
- Profile views after updates
- Number of messages received
- Quality of matches (compatible interests and intentions)
- Response rate to your messages
Profile Review Checklist
Before finalizing your profile, ensure:
- 5-6 high-quality, recent photos uploaded
- Headline is engaging and specific
- About Me is 150-300 words and authentic
- What I'm Looking For is positive and realistic
- All lifestyle questions answered honestly
- 5-10 relevant interests selected
- No grammar or spelling errors
- Tone is positive throughout
- Specific examples included (not generic statements)
- Profile represents your current self honestly
Conclusion
An effective OurTime profile balances authenticity with strategic presentation. Focus on showcasing your genuine personality, current lifestyle, and what makes you an interesting partner. Be specific, stay positive, and present your real self with confidence. Remember, the goal isn't to attract everyone—it's to attract the right someone who appreciates who you truly are.
Update your profile regularly, maintain high-quality photos, and approach the process with patience and optimism. The best matches come when you present your authentic self with pride and confidence.